“Sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height.
Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches.
Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth.
Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper
it goes, simultaneously.
The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots.
In fact, it is always in proportion.
That’s its balance.” – 0sho
Happy New Year (still, I guess). It’s been a while that we’ve connected here. I apologise for the long break. Life has been happening even in the silence. In between, I opened my heart to love again! (That’s a different story for a different day).
I have always been fascinated by the chinese symbol of the ‘Yin-Yang’ ☯️ because of what it represents. It represents opposite yet complimentary forces. The concept of the yin yang is that the balance of these forces creates harmony.
Yakubu always used to call me the yin to his yang. I was the fire and he was the ice. If you met or knew Yakubu then you’d agree that he was the calm, quiet, don’t-rock-the-boat introvert. He loved being on his lane in his space doing his own thing. I was the fiery, not so quiet, outgoing, life of the party, company loving, loud music extrovert who loved the outdoors, parties and great company. While I was adventurous with food and life, Yakubu preferred to play it safe and toe the line. He would choose the famliar and comfortable over any unknown or unpredictable outcome. He was the planner and detailed organiser while I would rather go with the flow or just wing it.
After almost a decade of being married, we made it work for us and chose to amplify our similarities than our differences. We both loved music and movies. We loved our ‘us’ time. We loved exploring new spots and locations together. We laughed a lot together and had a way of not letting the stress of life bring us down. We both loved the good things of life and worked hard to enjoy it.
This, however, did not mask or hide away those aspects of stark difference between that made us uniquely us. We chose understanding of each other instead of attempting to change the other. We embraced what made each person an individual as a whole. The complete package.
In some exciting news, the YIN YANG GRIEF WORKBOOK is one of the projects that I’m currently working on to be published and released soon. This is 1 of 2 products that I’ll be launching this year. It will be published alongside the SIT WITH IT GRIEF JOURNAL. These self-help resources are long overdue and I’m ecstatic that it’s finally becoming a reality.
This work aims to offer support, guidance and hope as you navigate your grief journey. It meets you where you are at on your journey with no pressure to be anything else.
Can’t wait to reach you again and don’t forget:
“Sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height.
Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches.
Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth.
Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper
it goes, simultaneously.
The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots.
In fact, it is always in proportion.
That’s its balance.” – 0sho
Dorothy Hirse
@DeeHirse (IG)